“Who you lovin? Who you wanna be huggin? Dippin on ya Ninja Honda with Tanisha and Rhonda, wha! You work more body than Jane Fonda”
The above lyrics are from R&B queen Mary J. Blige song entitled, “I Can Love You” featuring Lil’ _ _ _. If you don’t know who the featured artist is you probably shouldn’t be reading this blog. Lol! I’m just kidding… This portion of the verse just explained the title of this post.
Smashing, in recent years this word has been re-defined amongst the younger generation, slang for having sex. However, the actual definition of smashing is:
- be violently broken into pieces; shatter
- completely defeat, destroy, or foil
- crush inward
Even when used in slanged terms the actual definition still comes to fruition. Think about it… If you smashing with your partner right now and not married you are smashing with whomever they have smashed with. So if you agree or disagree with the president’s recent statement same-sex relationships you may have inadvertently participated with some same-sex relations. How?
Simple, if you’ve been dating your partner and he/she may have dipped out of the relationship a few times and only to come back to smash with you. Now you have officially been smashing Tyrone and Keisha. I know that’s a lot to take in but as you know I try to share truth and only truth.
So, how does smashing affect you? With that in mind if you’re ‘smashing’ you are availing your heart to be shattered, destroyed and crushed. There enough emotions to deal with within a relationship without bringing sex into the equation. For us adults smashing has become apart of our dating life without us taking a step back to really analyze the situation. The purpose of this post is for YOU and your beau to determine is smashing really necessary outside of marriage?
Call to action: Have a “smashing” conversation with your partner.
I don’t even know the way I ended up right here, but I assumed this suimbt used to be great. I do not know who you might be however definitely you are going to a famous blogger if you aren’t already Cheers..
Hey Delisha! No prob, thank you! I agree, the walk is not easy, but worth it. If we keep God first, he will not leave us out to dry.I find that a lot of things are easier to deal with when we keep our eyes,mind,heart,and spirit on him without getting too caught up in the world.My friend is teeter tottering,but I believe the Lord is strengthening her.I really don’t want to see her or any of us fall, but I know that the Lord has the final say.Thanks again,God bless you Delisha:)
I seriously love you and your blog. Coincidentally, I was conversing with a dear friend/sis in Christ while reading this. She is involved with a guy who clearly wants to have sex with her(she’s a virgin). She was telling me that she’s not sure she even believes that she should wait for marriage anymore, and she’s having second thoughts about her walk:( I was deeply saddened, and of course tried to encourage.Honestly, I have to pray and remain encouraged myself(I’m also a virgin), because when you see believers fall away/think of turning away it can be very discouraging. Posts like this rejuvenate my strength, and helps put the focus back where it should be. The devil truly is a liar, and we must continue to encourage and uplift one another! God bless you, please keep fighting and standing for the truth of God’s word.
Hi Dany thanks for your comment! I’ll be praying for your friend… This walk is not given to the weak in heart but we must truly stay focus and KEEP OUR STANDARDS! This walk is not the easiest but definitely the most beneficial;-) Stay Strong!
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I had a conversation with my housemate about this the other day..she said it was her way of release..I said she needs to find another way.
Thanks for sharing! One of the main reasons for this blog is to have those conversations we often don’t want to discuss. What I like to call REAL TALK! Ask your housemate does she know what she’s receiving by releasing?…
She said she does..and she told me not to judge her because that’s how she deals with it..that and getting blind drunk because she needs to forget about her problems..I responded by saying I wasn’t judging her..but there are other ways to deal with things..
Yes it is… I’ll keep praying for your friend as well. Have a great weekend!