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“Who you lovin? Who you wanna be huggin? Dippin on ya Ninja Honda with Tanisha and Rhonda, wha! You work more body than Jane Fonda”

The above lyrics are from R&B queen Mary J. Blige song entitled, “I Can Love You” featuring Lil’ _ _ _. If you don’t know who the featured artist is you probably shouldn’t be reading this blog. Lol! I’m just kidding… This portion of the verse just explained the title of this post.

Smashing, in recent years this word has been re-defined amongst the younger generation, slang for having sex. However, the actual definition of smashing is:

  • be violently broken into pieces; shatter
  • completely defeat, destroy, or foil
  • crush inward

Even when used in slanged terms the actual definition still comes to fruition. Think about it… If you smashing with your partner right now and not married you are smashing with whomever they have smashed with. So if you agree or disagree with the president’s recent statement same-sex relationships you may have inadvertently participated with some same-sex relations. How?

Simple, if you’ve been dating your partner and he/she may have dipped out of the relationship a few times and only to come back to smash with you. Now you have officially been smashing Tyrone and Keisha. I know that’s a lot to take in but as you know I try to share truth and only truth.

So, how does smashing affect you? With that in mind if you’re ‘smashing’ you are availing your heart to be shattered, destroyed and crushed. There enough emotions to deal with within a relationship without bringing sex into the equation. For us adults smashing has become apart of our dating life without us taking a step back to really analyze the situation. The purpose of this post is for YOU and your beau to determine is smashing really necessary outside of marriage?

Call to action: Have a “smashing” conversation with your partner.